[sticky entry] Sticky: Friends MOSTLY

Jan. 15th, 2012 02:03 pm
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Picture of a little girl swinging on a swingset

Friends mostly! I still do a lot of public posts, but non-friends are screened by default.

BEFORE YOU READ ANY FURTHER, READ THIS: http://fayanora.livejournal.com/838343.html

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for existing friends )

(Click the picture to get at least an idea of the meanings. Only "ingenuus memes" are defined there yet. That and the opposites of the others.)

Friends mostly. Mainly means there's a bunch of content friends-locked. Also, non-friends and anonymous posters are screened by default. If you are an ass in your comments, your comments will be deleted.

Comment to be added. And if you're an old friend getting a new LJ, let me know that information.

Friending must-knows:

1. I do not tolerate myself or my friends being made fun of for any reason. If I find you have done this, you will be unfriended and banned.

2. I NEVER do friend-culls. If you find you've been banned, it's either a mistake or for the above reason. If you believe it to be a mistake, let me know.

Also, there are three stages here:

1. There's an "Acquaintances" filter, for people I don't know very well. Not much more they get to see than public does, but some things. If you never see any friends-locked entries here, let me know. It seems I have to add people to the Acquaintances filter.

2. Friends - They see the most.

3. Multiplicity - Ask me about this one. It's got the most personal stuff of mine.

Fun stuff and more information. )


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fayanora: Steph Chloe Flapper (Steph Chloe Flapper)
This is a coin I found today in the Albertson's parking lot. Looks Japanese. I found a dime somewhere else today, too, but that was just a dime. This is cool. Sorry for the poor photo quality, I took these with my tablet.

Under the cut for size )
fayanora: Steph Chloe Dartagnan (Steph Chloe Dartagnan)
Social safety nets like welfare, SSI, SSDI, food stamps, etc. are in no way a free ride. It's not even a life raft. It's a 2 x 4 with a rope tied to it, barely enough to keep you from drowning if you grab ahold of it and fight constantly to stay afloat. And then the ship is dragging you along in its wake. Which wouldn't be so bad if the people on the ship were helping pull you back onto the ship, but no, they're standing there arguing. One side wants to cut the rope completely because you're "slowing down the ship," and the other side is like "No, that's not nice. Maybe only cut half of the rope?" And then they cut half the rope, and the rope is straining, and all it takes is one particularly strong wave to snap the rope and drown you. It's not fun, it's not easy; you're fighting for survival every moment, nearly dying, it's super stressful and exhausting, and will eventually give you stress illnesses if it goes on long enough. And the people on the ship just want you to give up, stop fighting, and drown already.

Nifty idea

Oct. 24th, 2016 12:43 am
fayanora: Steph Chloe Cake (Steph Chloe Cake)
One of the candidates for Oregon secretary of state had a neat idea on how to get around the Federal ban on marijuana money in banks: start an Oregon-run "vault" as they called it, weed sellers can put their money there instead of the bank. So like a bank, but not a bank, and run by the state government. And I'm sure that the weed sellers would go in for that, because right now they have all this cash and nowhere really secure to put it, and so they get robbed frequently.
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Now that I have finished reading "Every Heart a Doorway," a proper review is called for:

This is an amazing book, about a boarding school for people who - like Alice from Alice in Wonderland or Dorothy from the Oz books - slipped into another world, found they fit in, then got ripped out of that world back to this one, and now must adapt to their original world again, and cope with the strong need to return to the one they fell into. But of course, as with most of Seanan's writing, there is a horror twist: students are being murdered, their bodies mutilated.

As someone who coped with a troubled childhood by retreating into fantasy and then later got pulled kicking and screaming back to reality and has been trying to readjust ever since, I strongly resonate with these characters. Their characterization is unique, varied, realistic, and beautiful.

I was also pleased at the inclusion of a transgender character who is neither joke nor tragedy, and at the main character being asexual yet not aromantic. Further, one of the other girls is a scientist and genius. These characters, whose struggles to cope with being on earth again are so well written, added to a beautiful, rich, and believable fantasy multiverse, makes it a jewel to read, and I really hope Ms. McGuire will be taking us back through this door in the future.
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I'm reading "Every Heart a Doorway" by Seanan McGuire. It reminds me of what I've heard of the Mrs. Peregrine's Home series, but with a horror twist. A school for children who fell through doors into other worlds and then got shoved back here, trying to cope with this world again. It reminds me of my own childhood, because I was off in my own world during my childhood and have been trying to cope with being forced back to reality ever since.

Edit: Forgot to mention that there's a trans boy character, and the main character is asexual.


Oct. 16th, 2016 07:31 am
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Bob Dylan won a Nobel prize for literature. Because apparently shitty, sexist music is now literature. Ugh, first Obama's peace prize and now this? What's next, anti-vaxxers winning the Nobel prize for science?
fayanora: Steph bouncy (Steph bouncy)
As much as Hillary Clinton may have been right about some Trump supporters being deplorables, most of them are actually just ignorant and desperate people in rural areas, and her comment isn't going to win her any new voters from that side, it's just going to prove Trump's points about her to them. That was really either profoundly stupid or profoundly arrogant for her to say. Either she's got no clue that she has to try to win over the people being taken in by Trump's bullshit, or she's so cocksure of winning that she doesn't give a fuck. I tend to think the latter, as she's shown many times that - as a multi millionaire - she doesn't really give a fuck about anyone but her super wealthy financial backers. All the more proof that Bernie should have gotten the nomination.


Oct. 15th, 2016 11:48 pm
fayanora: Steph bouncy (Steph bouncy)
So there's a bit in my latest fanfic that is a perfect example of privilege, kind of explains easily what it is. It's the bold part of the following:

“Where do homeless witches and wizards go to beg for money?”
“Homeless witches or wizards?” Sirius responded. “I don't know. I'm not sure they exist.”
“If poor people like the Weasleys exist, surely those who are worse off also exist. I mean, the Weasleys may be poor, but at least they own property, and they never go hungry. I mean, it would be great to find out that nobody in the wizarding world goes without food or shelter or clothing, but I highly doubt such is the case.”
“I honestly don't know. I guess it's a sign of how I grew up that it never occurred to me to look into it, but you have a point. Something for you to look into, then. But first, we need to go over here to the security wizard kiosk.”
fayanora: SK avatar (SK avatar)
Discordians don't really need hexes, because if we want to give someone an interesting time, we simply pray to Eris for them. But praying to Eris is dangerous, even (maybe especially!) when praying for someone else, so maybe a Discordian hex would be a good idea. Anyway, an example of a Discordian hex:

Step 1. Turn to the intended victim.
Step 2. Say to them, "You'll be fine! What's the worst that could happen?"


Oct. 2nd, 2016 01:53 pm
fayanora: Rinmarugames (Rinmarugames)
Got some ginger powder at Winco yesterday. I've been putting it in my soup. Chicken soup with ginger in it is AMAZING! Especially since ginger is the only really spicy spice I can have that doesn't bother my IBS. (I pretty much only use basil and oregano and ginger in stuff.)

Oh, and tried some shitake mushrooms. They're more expensive, because I only got like less than a dozen and that cost the same as three times as many crimini mushrooms, but shitake mushrooms might be good to get in small amounts in future. I like their taste, texture, and color better than crimini mushrooms. Also, they cook faster.
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I have a friend who is a lesbian senior (60) with asperger's syndrome who doesn't think she can find love. She's very technologically deficient, can't use the Internet. So I'm trying to find places where she can meet lesbians around her age, in person, here in Portland Oregon. Which would be easier if she didn't also hate going to bars. I tried Meetup, Fetlife, even Google. There are dating sites, of course, but not a lot of what I'm really looking for. Meetup has Shades of Lavender, but that meets in a pub.

Anyway, so if you know of any places in Portland for gay seniors to meet, that meets somewhere other than a bar or pub, let me know, okay?

Edit: She doesn't want anyone younger than 43, and prefers people older than herself.


Sep. 28th, 2016 06:10 am
fayanora: Processing (Processing)
Pre-cut fruit from the food bank always tastes a little... odd. Not bad, just... weird. Like it's been carbonated. It's like eating soda pop with texture.

Write ins

Sep. 25th, 2016 01:54 am
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My roommate claims that in many states, write in votes are only valid if the candidate pays like, 10k dollars before hand, which sounds absurd to me. I could understand if they needed to pay that to get on the ballot, but for write in? If that's true, that takes the cake as the stupidest rule ever.
fayanora: Icky (Icky)
Airbnb and Uber are two services I can scarcely believe are even legal. I don't understand the popularity of either. Uber: Get into a car with a random stranger who doesn't have the training to do the job and didn't even have to pass a background check??? They could be a serial rapist and/or murderer!

Airbnb: Sublet your home to random strangers who don't have to pass background checks and could be burglars or worse, and if they decide they don't want to leave, well, they still have renter's rights, so you have to give them 30 days or more notice before evicting them.

Honestly, I think people who use Uber are suicidal, and people who list their homes on Airbnb are either suicidal or batshit crazy or just incredibly stupid and/or naive. And the fact that these services are actually legal boggles my mind. Uber I can almost understand, but I genuinely believe Airbnb needs to be outlawed.
fayanora: Hermione not amused (Hermione not amused)
The only 9/11 post that matters:


Comment: Amen to that all, and what's more, 9/11 only happened because the US was already over there bombing their families for oil. Nobody who died deserved it, but honestly our leaders should have expected it. If we truly want justice for 9/11, we need to put in prison all the Republicans and Democrats who have ever bombed middle eastern countries for oil. We need to find and imprison too, the people who assassinated the rightful rulers of countries over there to replace them with someone more compliant. Afghanistan was a liberal democracy with well educated men and women before we interfered. Our country is responsible for them backsliding. Our country is the reason their women have fewer freedoms than they did. The US - supposedly the bastion of freedom - has made the world meaner, nastier, and less free because of our greed for oil. Our leaders are ultimately the ones responsible for 9/11, their greed is its ultimate cause. Al-queda and Daesh (Isis) are our leaders' fault.


Sep. 10th, 2016 08:59 am
fayanora: Steph Chloe Flapper (Steph Chloe Flapper)
Back from ER. Just a scratch on the eye. They gave me an antibiotic ointment for my eye, and some numbing drops if I need them.
fayanora: Elle tongue (Elle tongue)
So chapter 2 of book 3 of Harry Potter and the Trouble With Neurotypicals is out now.

Blurb: Harry Potter, the Boy Who Lived, is a young and abused Black boy with Asperger's syndrome, & is hated by his guardians, the Dursleys. A little over a week before his birthday, he discovers that he is also a wizard, and the Dursleys knew all along. Not only is he a wizard, but he's also famous in the wizarding world! An AU fanfic. Third book of H.P. & the Trouble With Neurotypicals

AO3 version.

FF.net version.

BigCloset version.


Aug. 24th, 2016 07:46 am
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Had lots of interesting dreams last night. I don't remember much, but one scene stands out: a scene where Alex is talking with an obviously blind woman, eyes are milky. He's looking her in the eyes when talking, odd for him, and someone berates him for it; he angrily says "You look people in the eyes when you talk to them, that's the rules. Why should this be any different?" Then goes back to talking with her as before. She seemed to approve.
fayanora: DMT Collective Icon (DMTC)
Sometimes I think about things that happened days or even weeks ago. Last night I was thinking about something [personal profile] kengr asked once, maybe a week or two back. I don't remember the exact wording, but she basically asked how I manage to function with queunliskanphobia, IE fear (or rather extreme disgust/revulsion, in our case) of saliva. My answer at the time was something that amounted to "compartmentalization." I think specifically it was "I try to imagine it just doesn't exist," or near enough. But I was thinking again about this last night because I'd had my finger in my mouth and looked at the spit on my finger and didn't have a problem with it before wiping it off.

This isn't the only time something that usually bothers us hasn't bothered us. Like, the thought of blood can quickly make me feel weak and shaky and have to lie down for a while. But when I get a cut, the blood doesn't usually bother me. It's like, a cut happens and the practical part of our brain is like "Well this has to be dealt with." But there's more to it than that, even, because Pi ([personal profile] svaenohr) is aroused by blood, thinks about consuming it sometimes when zee1, er... you know... *waves hand dismissively.* (Zee was going to call it by the phillia name for it, but then we realized the word hemophilia is used for a disease, a somewhat misnamed disease at that. Pretty sure hemophiliacs don't like blood, unless it's staying put in their body. I would think hemophobia would be a better word for it. But that's a different disease.) When zee does this, the rest of us have to shut down and wait for zeer signal to return. We have to do this with quite a number of Pi's fetishes, to be honest.

Anyway, so several things came together in my mind last night, including what I'd mentioned above, and basically... the different people in our collective have different likes, dislikes, phobias, philias, etc. Which is something we never really realized the full implications of. But yeah, this means queunliskanphobia is Alex's problem; dunno who else in here has it, but at least one of us does not have that problem. Or, at least, not to the same degree. Just thinking about... the thing... can set off Alex's phobia. And it's impossible to predict when his influence is going to wane enough from the system to make it alright. So yeah, we try not to think about it.

So pretty much all of us have a revulsion response to blood, not sure what to call it now that they've stolen the only term I could think of for another disease (and I was astonished at all the various blood diseases that put philia on the end of the word, in the short time I dared try to find a word to replace hemophobia. Did the people naming those not know what the word "philia" means? And honestly, I wouldn't call what Pi has hemomania, either. It's not a mania, it's just a kink of zeers, one of many. A kink that the rest of us would rather forget about... along with most of zeer other kinks. If you're curious, you can pop over to zeer LJ/DW and look it up. Thankfully it is all in zeer mind only. Most of zeer kinks are pretty much impossible anyway, and zee knows better than to try the others. Pretty sure if zee tried the blood thing, even with someone known to be disease free, the rest of us would freak out and vomit and probably curl into a ball in the corner and cry.

But yeah, there's others. Alex and some of the others have cynophobia as well, a distrust of and fear of dogs. (Not sure who else, aside from Alex and Pi.) But Molly's reaction to dogs is "Puppy!"

That's all we can think of for now. But there may be others. It's hot right now, and we were tired anyway, so thinking is not a strong suit at the moment.

1 = "Zee" is our spelling of the genderless "ze" or "xe," to make the pronunciation more obvious. We also change "zer" and "xer" to "zeer." These are Pi's preferred pronouns, as zee identifies as agender (without gender).


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